Tuesday, March 18, 2008
Mendez Baby Update: It's a . . . .
Well, the Mendez family will be adding a bit of estrogen. That's right, we're having a girl!
We've known for quite a while, but I waited until we had that the "official" sonogram in case the doctor changed her mind. So, we're finally in the clear to let you all know!
The baby is absolutely fine and looked adorable on the sonogram. She was kicking like crazy, just like her big sister did. And she was sucking her thumb which was hilarious. (Okay maybe not to all of you, but my family will get that joke anyway.)
I don't have an ultrasound picture for you guys this time. The ones she gave me just weren't that good. But after my next appointment, yes, I should have something to upload for you all.
And no, I can't tell you the name yet.
Because Joel and I are still "discussing" it.
So if you all have any opinions, you better let us know soon!
Love,
Julie, Joel, Abby, and Junior-ette
Monday, March 10, 2008
March Madness at the Mendez House
The month of February could be called the Month of Germ Warfare in the Mendez house. Seriously. We saw the insides of four different hospitals this past month. Three of which I would never ever want to step in again in my entire life.
The very beginning of the month had me rushing to the hospital late at night - a false alarm scare with the pregnancy. Don't worry, I'm completely fine and so is the baby. But let me just say that if I had ever considered giving birth in a Croatian hospital, that experience changed my mind.
Then we saw a local pediatrician because Abby was still refusing to sleep (from the cold back in January) and waking up every hour and a half and I was worried she was coming down with something again. That pediatrician was a total quack, so the next day I tried out a new pediatrician office and they seemed to be very good. They ruled out sickness, but started to blame gas and stomach pain - so we started talking food allergies or possible reflux. Which led to a starting a huge battery of allergy and bloodtests. Which took us to another hospital (where they do lab work on children here).
In the middle of this process, Abby got a horrible horrible norovirus (stomach virus -- I'm convinced she must have picked it up in the hospital while doing all that testing). In about an hour, she literally puked up everything she had eaten in the past 24 hours. I totally freaked and we took her to the hospital that evening. That in itself is a long horrible story, so let's just say that two hospitals, many traumatic experiences with needles and doctors later, and at about 4:30am, we pulled Abby out of the hospital and brought her home. She was extremely dehydrated and very ill, plus the whole gas/no sleeping thing was still going on.
We finally got out of Croatia and went to London to see some "real" doctors, where she started to improve after the virus, and we got some real help finally. We saw a pediatrician, an allergist and a pediatric gastroenterologist all within our first 24 hours in London. The general consensus is that she was getting better on her own from the virus and the initial problem was probably due to reflux. So she was admitted to a London hospital so they could run the tests for that, and then check out a couple other things to rule them out as a precaution. So that was our last hospital for the month.
I can't tell you how impressed and overwhelmed by the level of service in London. We saw some of the best doctors in London, plus the nurses and staff were just so great with Abby. They were just wonderful, and thought the "Americans" were quite amusing because we kept thanking them for taking such good care of us. (Oh, and I got the stomach bug from Abby while in London, but not half as bad as Abby. It just made our hotel stay in London so much more pleasant, if you catch my drift. Thankfully I got over it more quickly than she did.) And we were just so relieved to finally be getting real answers and real treatment after dealing with Croatian doctors for so long. And everyone there is just SOOOOO nice. We loved it.
While in London, we tried to get out a bit and enjoy our week back in civilization. We ate Indian and Lebanese and Chinese for dinner, we took Abby to the zoo on the Sunday - which was a HUGE hit - and we played in the park a couple of times. We also went to Hamley's, which is the big famous toy store there and bought coloring books. (I came with nothing to entertain Abby, not thinking we'd be there so long.) We ate in a pub a couple of times, so Joel could have a "pint." So the trip wasn't all bad.
We came home on Saturday, March 1st, and Abby was back to her normal spunky toddler self on the plane ride. We had to say "Bog (hi)" to every single person on the plane, we colored, we ate cheerios one by one, we sang "The Wheels on the Bus," we counted Mommy's fingers over and over, and anything else I could think of to entertain her for two and a half hours. Yep. my little girl was back; just about at the time where I really wanted her to take a nap!
To answer your questions: as of writing this, we have not heard back from the doctors in London yet. We are waiting on the test results from while we're there. So we don't have a real definitive answer on what's going on with Abby. We're still operating the assumption that she has reflux unless we hear something different. Which is completely easy to deal with.
And Abby is doing fine now, because I know you all are worried. She is dancing a little jig right beside me because the babysitter is about to take her for a walk. She also waves "Bye Bye", blows kisses, and gives "Big Hugs." (We watched a lot of Teletubbies at the hospital in London.)
So that was our exciting month. We are very glad to be home now and back to our somewhat normal lives! Before all that, we did make that trip to Aviano to stock up, I had friends over to scrapbook again, and we are making inroads (very slowly) in the details of our move.
In the good news column of this post, Abby did pee in the potty! Just once before she got sick, but hey I'll take it! She especially liked the M&Ms she got as a reward. Maybe if I get up enough gumption to try again in the next couple of weeks, we'll start over.
I think I'm also becoming one of those germ-phobic mothers I swore I'd never be, and probably will be investing in crates of hand sanitizer and clorox disinfecting wipes. Maybe I'll even look into installing one of those CDC deconamination units at the door of the house - like you see in the movies. Just kidding. A little. I am being very strict about how much we take Abby out of the house and where we take her and who she comes into contact with - we have dropped her swim class and playgroup until I'm sure her immune system is fully up and running. Joel and I are taking turns going to church so that I don't have to put her in the nursery.
So, what's up for March? Well, sleeping in our own beds for one thing! No really, we've got a long to-do list for our upcoming move that we really have to make major progress on this month. We are at about 100 days and counting before we leave! Plus I have got to get working our taxes and get them in this week, and I'm plowing ahead on my career coaching business. I've filled out all the paperwork for our website designer, and she is busy working on her end of things as we speak. I have another OB appointment this week I think, (after which I will post again for you guys and give you an update) and lots of running around after Abby.
So, here are a couple pictures of February -

Abby and Mommy at the Zagreb Zoo
Mommy and Abby eating Lebanese in London


Thursday, January 31, 2008
February Update from the Mendezes
The puking has eased up, halleluiah. I'm back to most of my normal self. I've been spending most of my time trying to dig out of the disorganized cesspool I let everything get to when I took a twelve week break from, well, everything.
Abby is doing great. She is also officially almost off the bottle. She wouldn't self-wean, so we had to do the hard core cold turkey method. Not fun. Tears and tantrums and wailing and gnashing of teeth. I got to the point that anytime she starting crying I just handed her a cookie. She even got very good at saying, "Cookie" very clearly! But it was amazing, at the exact same time she went through a HUGE growth spurt and this sweet little angel turned into a voracious, human garbage disposal! She has been eating us out of house and home! You laugh, but one day I literally fed her from 7am until 6pm. She just never stopped eating. I was even worried that perhaps she had gotten some kind of tapeworm, until about a week later I noticed her onesies weren't fitting her. She grew like 2-3 inches all at once. It's crazy; I can't keep up with her.
She also decided that she was going to go on a napping strike for the past few weeks, and that was extremely rough. This girl needs her nap in order for her to function and for me not to lose my sanity. That turned into a nasty head cold though, which is hopefully run its course. I'm here to tell you that snot is nasty and gross, and when people tell you that poop and snot are cute and not so bad when it's your own kid; they LIE. Snot is Gross.
So, that's been the major part of our month. Mostly we've been trying to get back in the groove after the holidays and start all the fun process and procedures for our upcoming move and the summer spent in Alabama having Junior. A move can never be simple and uncomplicated, of course. Well, hopefully we're starting early enough to get the worst out of the way so we can just enjoy the summer.
Coming up in February: tackling the potty-training monster, another trip to Aviano, getting more of the move details finalized, working on the dreaded taxes, and another OB appointment. Plus while you guys (in Alabama, anyway) are celebrating Fat Tuesday next week, we'll be celebrating Fasnik. That's when the kids here in Croatia dress up and go trick or treating, instead of Halloween.
Joel shoveling snow in our driveway.
Abby after a full portion of pasta. She reminds me of that plant in Little Shop of Horrors: "Feed Me, Feed Me."
That's all from us. Happy Mardi Gras to all!
Love, Julie, Joel, and Abby
Friday, January 18, 2008
Mendez Family News
Blame Junior.

Yep, that's right. The Mendez Clan is growing by one (Yes, we checked, just one!) and we're due August 4th. Monday will be the 12 week mark, and I'm happy to say that we've survived the first trimester, which is a huge event in our house. (This picture is from last week's sonogram, at 11 weeks.) So huge in fact, I'm going on a girl's night out next week to celebrate and watch all my friends drink in my honor! Hahaha!
To answer your questions:
a) Yes, we plan to find out the sex of the baby. No, we haven't found out yet, but not because we didn't try! Maybe my next appt, if Junior wants to show off.
b) Yes, we're thinking of names. If you have input, you can relate it to Joel, as he's doing most of the thinking right now. I've been concentrating on not puking.
c) Today I feel fine. Yesterday I lost two pounds before I went to bed. (Don't worry, I gained that the day before when I didn't puke.) It's kindof a day-by-day, minute-by-minute thing. You know it's bad morning sickness when you're debating which is more important - brushing your teeth or eating breakfast - because you know you can't do both.
d) Yes, I'm already in maternity jeans, but no, I haven't gained too much weight yet. Depends on the day and whether I've been puking alot (see c.)
e) Yes, I think Abby knows that something is up. She's become fascinated by babies lately, and has started to point to my belly, and ask, "Baba?"
f) Yes, we'll be back in the US to have the baby, most likely Fairhope, AL right now. And yes, the baby will be born right in the middle of our move from Croatia to Chile. Just like with Abby. Just like we swore we would never do to ourselves again. (Goes to show you, God does laugh when you make plans . . . )
g) Yes, we're excited. (Well, I'll be more excited when I stop puking.) The baby is doing well now, though we did have a little more excitement at the beginning than you really want with a pregnancy. But now he/she's all hunky-dory and growing well (1 1/2 weeks ahead - so a big baby). My OB is very nice and very good, and quick to tell me how beautiful he/she is. And of course I say, "Well, duh!
So that's our news!
Love to all,
Julie, Joel, and Abby
Wednesday, January 02, 2008
Happy 2008 from the Mendezes!
We sent the older boys out on Christmas Eve to shovel snow. They thought it was fun!
Okay, just one more picture that I have to share. Do you see this face? This stinker is what I deal with every day. Yep. We're in trouble.
Love,
Monday, December 03, 2007
December News from the Mendezes
Poor thing. So no Santa picture yet this year. (Which is okay, he wasn't that good of a Santa.) We've got a couple more chances, so maybe we'll get lucky later on.Thanksgiving was a bit crazy, but fun. Joel had a flag football game in the morning, playing against the Marines (who are all 19 years old and in peak phsyical condition of course). He had a great time but was creaking around like an old man afterwards. I think I'm also required to mention that he caught a pass and scored a touchdown. This is not the best picture of Joel, but it's the best one I've got. I like to call this the "Oh My Gosh, I Caught the Ball" face.
Abby got into the spirit of the game as well. Hut Hut!

Okay, one last one from that morning. I'm so excited I got some good pictures for a "fall" pages with the leaves for my scrapbook.

So, after going home and scraping off a thick layer of mud (Can I just say that I always thought that flag football meant no tackling; so why was Joel covered in mud from head to toe?) we got down to the business of finishing up our meal, and had a ton of people to eat it. That was fantastic. The only problem is that we had almost no leftovers, which are almost the best part of Thanksgiving.
Before Thanksgiving, Joel and I went to the International Women's Club Charity Gala, and the Marine Ball. I don't have any pictures yet of the Marine Ball, but it was FUN. We partied and danced and had a great time. The IWC Gala . . . well, it was for a good cause. We hardly knew anyone. Apparently it was the society event of the year in Zagreb. All these "famous" Croatian people that I guess we should know were there. However, as a member of the board I did get interviewed for Croatian National TV, and was on. Yep, that's right. I'm famous now, at least in Croatia. You can see the interview online here: http://dnevnik.hr/bin/article.php?article_id=30699&show_media=83296 (just his the video button).
Before that, we took a trip back to Rome. We got to see our old friends, eat some great food, drink some great wine, eat some more great food, see more friends . . . you get the idea. Luckily we walked off most of it and didn't gain too much weight. But oh, the food was so good. Haven't ate like that in ages. Not so easy to navigate that city with a toddler and a stroller though.


So beyond all of that fun and craziness, what else have we been up to? Well, I'm still working on that online class which will finish up in December, and scrapbooking whenever I can. Joel and I both have our Bible Studies and Abby has playgroup and swim class. (Oh I almost forgot, here is a picture of her with some of our friends at swim class.)

Abby is in the middle of a huge growth and development spurt. She is getting really tall and has gained another 1 1/2 pounds in the past 2 months. She is climbing all over the furniture and trying to give me a heart attack. She is also on the verge of talking up a storm as well. She will come and tell me she's ready to go "Night Night" when she's tired, and for some reason her other new word is "big." She says baba for baby, and boy, bobo for bottle, and CuhCuh for cookies and Cookie Monster. (She also does the laugh like the Count on Seseme Street - Ah Ah Ah.) She babbles all the time, and is also getting kindof obstinate and opionated. She is not cooperating on getting rid of the bottle at all. After Christmas we're going to have to go hardcore on that, but I just don't have the energy for it right now. She's really getting into playing with her toys and carries around her baby doll with her everywhere. What else? Every night Joel and I have to do a search for our alarm clocks because every morning she finds them and hides them.
Wednesday, November 14, 2007
Mid-November Mendez News
Hello all!Yes, I'm late this month. And I'm going to keep it short and too the point or I will never ever get this done.
It's just been that busy here this past month. My homework for the online class I'm taking is kicking . my . posterior. Now I remember why I didn't go back to grad school. It's an extremely useful course, I'm learning so much, but gee whiz. I am so sick of the homework. I'm always behind.
What else did we do in October, besides the farm trip (pictures in a different post)? Oh yeah. HALLOWEEN.
Man what a trip Halloween was. Abby was Dorothy from the Wizard of Oz, complete with a Toto and red ruby slippers. She loved those shoes. In fact, "shoes" was her first real word. She would talk about "sews" for hours. The first time I tried on her costume and her shoes, she wouldn't let me take them off! She walked arounnd in just her diapers and her shoes for two hours. It was too cute for me to do anything about it.
Then we went to the Embassy Halloween party, where we got jipped on the costume contest for the second year in a row (the under 3 crowd didn't get judged this year. Figures.) But Abby had a blast. She even got a bit of candy, which Mom and Dad prompty ate for her (it didn't even make it through the ride home). And on Halloween night we went trick or treating at a couple of houses.
Besides Halloween, we've had our normal daily activities. I have my Bible study on Monday mornings and several moms with kids about Abby's age come over for that. The kids play while we do our thing. We're doing the book, The Power of a Praying Parent. Great book.
Plus Abby and I go to playgroup on Thursday mornings, and swim class on Friday mornings. I have yet to get pictures of that since I'm always in the water with Abby. Oh but she has such a great time in swim class. Mainly at her age it's splashing around and not being scared of the water, but we have a good time.
I've been working on my scrapbooking as well. I'm far behind where I want to be, but I'm gotten up to May of this year in our family album. I still haven't started Abby's baby album yet. If this class wasn't killing me, I'd be caught up by now, but oh well. I've been inviting a friend and we've been doing marathon scrapbooking sessions on Sundays after church, while Abby and Joel watch football. And sometime Joel plays football, using Abby as the football.
Abby is really growing up a ton this past month. She's at least a couple inches taller, got several more teeth, and is talking now. Real words too, not just baby babble. She's quite chatty. So far she says "shoes" and "no" for nose, which is quite different when she is saying "NO," which she also says quite well! She's really into Animals at the moment. She says "meow" for Puzza, knows that Cows moo and sheep say baa. She also likes to roar like a lion. Her only Spanish word at the moment is "papo" for pato, which is Spanish for duck. She happens to love the rubber duckies in the pool at swim class.
She's also growing quite an attitude. She wants what she wants, how she wants and when she wants it. She's also started screaming and throwing little fits. Man, I thought we had a couple more months before this started. Oh well, my little baby girl is growing up.
November has been quite a busy month as well, and will continue to be so since Thanksgiving is coming up next week. I can't believe that's already here!
Anyways, I'll keep all that to talk about in the next installment. Here are some picture to tide you over until then.
Dorothy on her cellphone?

Abby and her Toto

Keeping Daddy on the Run at the Embassy Holiday Party
Abby and Mommy

Trick or Treating
See all ya'll later!
Love,
Julie, Joel and Abby
Saturday, October 13, 2007
Our Trip to Eko Selo Farm
Thursday, October 04, 2007
October Polka-dotted News from the Mendezes
We're starting to get excited about our move to Santiago, Chile. We've been reading up on everything there - rules about bringing vehicles, pets, and preschools. I'm hoping that Abby can get into one of the bilingual preschools there. Their seasons are opposite the US: summer is in December, January and February. So that will be very interesting.
Abby and I started attending the weekly playgroup in September, in addition to my duties in the International Women's Club, and my Bible study group started back up as well. Joel had a very successful poker night this month (well, not financially successful). We also took a weekend trip to Aviano to stock up.I also began an online business course. It's geared toward entrepreneurs and teaches you all about starting a business and creating a business plan. It's pretty good, though the homework has pretty much taken over my life at the moment. But it's very interesting, and I'm learning a great deal.
Abby is turning into a real little girl, right before our eyes. I got her a little chair for the living room, and she sits in it like a big kid. Abby is so curious and gets into everything. We've had to start saving toys from being flushed down the toilet. It is amazing just watching investigate and figure little things out. She now "meows" to Puzza. She meows to any animal, actually. We're trying to get her to "woof" to the dog next door, but it hasn't worked yet. She is trying very hard to talk and communicate and is starting to get very frustrated when we don't understand her. We are really working hard on words now trying to alleviate that a bit. Other than that, Abby is doing well, she even ended the month with another tooth! She got one of her molars on the right side.
You guys will be proud to know that I am already indoctrinating her into the cult of scrapbooking!So that was our September. Our October has already started with a bang -- Abby has chicken pox (hence the polka-dotted title!). It's a very mild case, and she got it from the vaccine she got a few weeks ago. She's already doing much better, but keeping her from the playground and other kids is becoming a pain. She really misses playing with other kids.
So that's it for us. Hopefully by next week we'll be released from being stuck at the house with Abby's chicken pox. We're supposed to be going to a farm visit with the embassy next Saturday. We're looking forward to Abby petting a goat and riding a pony! (This child has very little fear, so I don't think that will be a problem at all.) Plus, Joel and I have decided that we need "date nights" and have signed up for salsa classes begining this weekend. Oh, and of course the Embassy Halloween party is coming up as well! Abby's costume finally arrived in the mail, and I can't wait to get her all dressed up!
Talk to all you soon!
Love,
Julie, Joel and Abby



